Some mornings, the smallest question can change everything. “What can I do to better myself today?” This one line may be the key to catching a mental health decline before it takes hold.
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When we get up in the morning, we should be intentional about asking ourselves, “What can I do to better myself today?”
I know — the modern world is so busy that you probably don’t feel like you have time to ask these kinds of questions. But you should.
The fast-paced, social-media-driven world we live in today has locked us in a bubble that’s too small for growth. Too small for reflection. Too small for change. Yet, like most predicaments we find ourselves in, the only way out is to turn inward and think our way through it.
If you want a better understanding of why our biology struggles in today’s world, explore more of my work at:
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We’re Not Anti-Social — We’re Burned Out
The science is clear — our brains are wired for connection. From the oxytocin that bonds us to the prefrontal cortex that helps us regulate emotion, human biology depends on social interaction. Yet modern life isolates us more than ever, leaving stress unchecked and loneliness widespread.
Ironically, one of the few weapons we have at our disposal is self-improvement.
Take it from someone who waited until their bubble burst. I literally lived my life like someone washing their hair: wet, scrub, rinse, repeat. I pushed through the same routine day after day, ignoring the mental pain that festered and spread until it finally took me out.
Didn’t physically die, but inside, I absolutely did.
To my credit, I tried during the downward spiral that let PTSD and depression take hold. And honestly, parts of life did feel good for a while. I was running, eating well, and living solo while having my children on my days off. Life felt stable.
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But one bad relationship — and one too many tragic incidents — took the floor out from under me and dropped me straight into the jaws of trauma. I think about that moment often, though I’m not sure why. It’s not as though I can turn back time and fix it all.
It does, however, bring me to today’s topic: how to spot the early signs of a mental health decline.
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Fire Service and Health Care’s Impact
As many readers over at The Road to Mental Wellness know, I spent 15 years in the volunteer fire service and 18 years working in a facility supporting people with cognitive delays, mental illness, and behavioural challenges.
These two professions had a profound effect on my mental well-being. What I witnessed was the stuff of nightmares. Beyond that, the work was highly demanding — physically and especially mentally.
Throw a family with two young children on top of that and you get a never-ending life stuck in that tiny bubble I mentioned earlier.
During that time, stress pooled and bubbled under my skin. I carried a heavy, weighted feeling all the time. Sleep felt impossible. And after pushing myself too far for too long, even getting out of bed felt like fighting against an invisible force.
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This constant “plowing through” was, in retrospect, a huge mistake. The signs were there, and they were loud. I only recognized them when my eyes began to twitch and my mind drifted somewhere else more often than not.
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I still remember being on a fire scene around seven in the morning. It was a minor call — a chimney fire — but I was mentally paralyzed. Someone said, “Just dump your ashes in the snow bank over there.”
And I froze.
I stood there, bucket in hand, as still as the icicles hanging from the eaves. My mind couldn’t process a basic instruction.
Even though my body was screaming, “You’re heading toward a mental health crisis,” I ignored it and kept pushing.
That was a mistake — probably the biggest mistake I’ve ever made.
Had I been paying attention — asking myself “What can I do to better myself today?” — I might have turned a corner sooner.
Watch Who You Call a Narcissist: Not Everything Is Narcissism
The internet is rife with misinformation, particularly regarding mental health and personality disorders. It’s crucial to distinguish between genuine narcissism and common selfish behaviors, as misunderstanding this can lead to labeling individuals unfairly. This mislabeling impacts mental health, emphasizing the need for a deeper understanding of human behavior rather than simplistic judgments.
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What I Should Have Done
- Resigned from the fire department years earlier
- Found a different job and advanced my education
- Spent more time repairing my marriage and nurturing my kids
- Practiced regular self-care and taken time for myself
- Developed better sleep habits
If you want to explore ways to rebuild your life in a practical, grounded way, this post might help:
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The list could go on and on.
But I can’t change what happened. What I can do is serve as a warning shot for your life’s trajectory. Instead of learning the hard way — through your own pain — take what I’m telling you seriously. Start by asking yourself, “What can I do to better myself today?” and then act on the answer.
For daily foundations that genuinely support recovery, you can visit:
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Take this seriously — as seriously as a heart attack or fighting to save your home after missed payments. Your mental health is just as important.
So if any of these symptoms ring true for you, don’t wait. Act.
Start with the Basics
- Rest
- Better eating
- Daily movement
- Time in nature
- Cultivating your social connections
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These fundamentals are your starting points. They are the answer to that first question:
“What can I do to better myself today?”
You can do this.
I’m rooting for you,
Jonathan
Author • Speaker • Trained Counsellor
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